Parental Alienation (PA) is a term used to describe a child’s unjustified campaign of denigration against one parent. It is a form of psychological abuse that occurs when one parent manipulates and brainwashes a child into believing the other parent is bad, evil, or worthless. PA can have a devastating impact on both the targeted parent and the child.
PA is not a recognized mental disorder, but it is a recognized form of emotional abuse. It can occur in any type of family, regardless of race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, or sexual orientation. However, it is most commonly seen in families who are going through a divorce or separation. In these cases, one parent may use the child as a pawn in the ongoing conflict between the parents, turning the child against the other parent.
Symptoms of PA can vary depending on the child’s age, but some common signs include:
Refusing to visit or talk to the targeted parent
Making negative or derogatory comments about the targeted parent
Expressing fear or anger towards the targeted parent without any justifiable reason
Displaying a sudden and drastic change in behavior towards the targeted parent
Believing and repeating lies or false accusations about the targeted parent
PA is a complex issue and it is not always easy to identify. The child may not even be aware that they are being manipulated and brainwashed. They may genuinely believe that the targeted parent is a bad person. It is important to remember that the child is not at fault in these situations, they are being used as a tool by the abusive parent.
The impact of PA on the targeted parent can be devastating. They may feel rejected, hurt, and powerless. They may also feel guilty, as if they have done something wrong to cause the child to turn against them. In some cases, the targeted parent may even experience depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues as a result of the abuse.
The impact on the child can also be severe. They may feel confused, guilty, and torn between their parents. They may also experience emotional and behavioral problems, such as anxiety, depression, and acting out. In some cases, the child may even develop trust issues and have difficulty forming healthy relationships in the future.
It is important to understand that PA is not the fault of the targeted parent, and they are not responsible for the child’s behavior. The abusive parent is the one who is responsible for the child’s behavior, and they are the ones who need to be held accountable.
There are several ways to address PA and help the child, the targeted parent, and the family as a whole. One effective way is through therapy. A therapist can work with the child, the targeted parent, and the abusive parent to help them understand and cope with the situation. They can also help the child and the targeted parent to rebuild their relationship.
Another effective way is through the involvement of a neutral third party, such as a mediator or a guardian ad litem. These professionals can help to facilitate communication between the parents and can also help to identify and address any issues of PA.
It is also important to involve the legal system in cases of PA. The abusive parent can be held accountable for their actions and may face legal consequences, such as losing custody or visitation rights. However, it should be noted that legal intervention should not be the first step and should only be done in cases where therapy and other methods have failed.
In conclusion, Parental Alienation is a form of emotional abuse that can have a devastating impact on both the targeted parent and the child. It is important to recognize the signs of PA and to take action to help the child, the targeted parent, and the family as
Parental Alienation is a form of emotional abuse that can have a devastating impact on both the targeted parent and the child. It is important to recognize the signs of PA and to take action to help the child, the targeted parent, and the family as a whole. This can include seeking therapy, involving a neutral third party, and in severe cases, involving the legal system. It is crucial to understand that PA is not the fault of the targeted parent, and they are not responsible for the child’s behavior. The abusive parent is the one who is responsible and should be held accountable for their actions. It is important to remember that PA is a complex issue and that early intervention is key to preventing further harm to the child and the targeted parent.
Using children as pawns in the midst of a divorce is a cruel and inhumane act. It is important for parents to remember that children are not tools for manipulation and deceit. Instead, they should be shown love and support during this difficult time. By prioritizing their children’s well-being and working towards healing, parents can help to mitigate the negative effects of a divorce and ensure that their children grow up to be healthy and well-adjusted adults.
Learn more about #ParentalAlienation at http://Parental-Alienation.info for resources and research on the devastating effects of Parental Alienation.
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“Seek and ye’ shall find”…
I promised someone very special to me to share this story one day to help others suffering, mentally, physically and or spiritually in life.
I truly hope my testimony, somehow helps you find the path back to the way, the truth and the LIGHT.
Everyone’s QUEST in life takes them on a different path, but at 33 years old, as the owner of a successful martial arts event business called ‘Grapplers Quest’ (GrapplersQuest.com) with the wind in my sails, personally and professionally, my life at skin-deep levels to the outside world was outstanding. Inside anger, frustration, darkness, revenge and sadness ravaged my thoughts, obsessively, as if someone or something inside me was trying to destroy me.
Everyone has unseen challenges, but my challenges included undiagnosed “brain damage” which was destroying my family, friendships, marriage, life, and business, all at once. A severe back breaking injury and repeated concussion syndrome were the likely cause of the brain damage, but when I couldn’t be in a room with more than a few people, after years of being in rooms of thousands, I accepted something was truly wrong.
The journey back to heal my mind, body and soul began at the bottom “of the top” and one night I heard something that I could never forget, I remembered it word for word. This message started me on the journey back to God, but it was a strange, unnerving and mysterious message that opened my eyes to seek the TRUTH like my soul depended on it.
Here’s where it all began, “More Was Never Enough” by Brian Cimins…
Why should we talk about our weaknesses? There are many reasons we should share our weaknesses, first, to help us become aware of them, so we can start the process of improving and ultimately to get past them. Everyone has weaknesses and the man or woman who says, “I have no weakness”, proves they do by not being able to admit they do struggle with something in life. We can learn from our mistakes and improve our frame of mind. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.”
Properly framing our mindset and awareness filled with loving kindness and helping others allows us to experience less suffering. Secondly, we can become an inspiration to others suffering, we can be the example of the “light at the end of the tunnel” so many speak of, but seldom come across in life. Someone can look at us and say, “if they recovered, so can I”.
I witnessed too many promoters, fighters and friends of friends commit suicide and when I started experiencing severe side effects of depression, sleep disorder, mood changes, memory loss and other PTSD-like symptoms from “minor brain damage”, after years of “seeking” on my own, I finally surrendered and fully turned to God.
My focus to heal my relationship with God was paramount and then miraculously, my brain, body, spirit and family started healing in my life. My business success wasn’t first for the first time in my life, God was finally first, and everything else worked itself out. “He restores my soul”. Everything changed for the better and all of the right people came into my life and as the years went on all of the right doctors, mentors and people made in the image of God started appearing in my life.
Finally, 2nd Corinthians Chapter 12, Verse 9 reads, “therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me”. When we are able to speak about our weaknesses, we are glorifying God and helping others along the way. That’s certainly enough for me and anyone else suffering with ANY affliction on this planet. Please FOCUS on your relationship with God first…
Here’s one of my many testimonials for the Glory of Jesus Christ…
Back in the Winter of 2015, I never thought playing air hockey with my son in my parent’s basement would change my life, but it did.
Well, in reality, God changed my life and left some bread crumbs for me to find the way out of darkness. Playing video games and table games with my son and daughter has been a wonderful pastime. As children sometimes do, Logan started hitting too hard and all of a sudden, the puck went flying off the table rattling into my Dad’s library size bookcase. It landed behind a forty-seven year old wedding picture of theirs.
Glancing at the old, stained and beat up photo, I thought of how long and beautifully my parent’s loved each other. I thought about how many trials and tribulations that they faced, that I never even knew about. I thought about how much they loved us and just how very strong, amazing parents Paul and Phyllis Cimins truly were and are today.
Seeing behind their smile, I realized they too also faced challenging times, wars and rumors of wars, gas price hikes and shortages, a President assassination, Cuban Missle Crisis, Cold War with Russia, business challenges, financial loss, hurricanes, earthquakes, volcanoes and more challenged than I could possibly imagine.
We were invited by the Van Hook family to come to a Night of Worship at Jacksonville Chapel (http://ChapelNJ.org) in September of 2015 and met some of the best Christian mentors, Pastors, Team Leaders, and Volunteers including the Van Hook family, who’ve been our expanded family in Christ as we grow, learn and serve others together.
At nearly forty years old, I am finally beginning to understand and even comprehend how they were also able to get through all of the trials and tribulations in life. They laid their problems, their hopes and their dreams at the feet of Jesus. My parents independent and unified faith in Jesus got them through it all. I witnessed by dad’s loyal dedication to Bible study, outreach ministry and teaching children. My father is Presbyterian and my mother was Catholic, but irregardless of their Christian Sect, they were two of the most amazing examples of Christians I’d ever met. They lived by example, not by jamming it down our throats, forced prayers, mandatory Catholic schools or any other forcible way to show me the path. They lived it and prayed to God that one day, God would give me the same gift of grace they received in life.
Glancing at the book shelf, I saw more than one hundred books in Christian study from his Children Team Leadership development programs and years of devotion to learn. I was a little embarrassed that this was my first time realizing my dad was a well studied Christian leader and teacher of the Word of God through sixty or more years of study. Back to the action…the Air Hockey puck stood on it’s side in front of the right book for me called “God’s Psychiatry” by Dr. Charles Allen, a four scripture and prayer based book which clearly lays out the “Prescription to Cure Depression”.
This version was discontinued in 1957 (newer versions are now available), but contained just four prayers and verses including The Ten Commandments (Exodus), The Lord’s Prayer (Book of Matthew), The Beatitudes and the 23rd Psalm explained in heart and soul filled detail with tons of early 19th century examples, parables and lessons in over nearly 200 pages.
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THE PATH BACK TO GOD: I’d been studying the Bible for five solid years plus eighteen years of going to church, I realized, I never really understood, even the most common prayers or verses, fully or it was memorized in my brain, but not yet written on my heart.
Learning Bible hermeneutics training with Pastor Andrew Rappaport (http://StrivingForEternity.org) showed me which Bible offers the closest translation to the original Greek and I’ve been working within the MacArthur Study Bible that Pastor Andrew gave to me nearly a year ago. His bible study and world religion courses along with Public Minister training has been an absolutely amazing addition to learn what it means to be a Christian. Check out his courses and Free Videos at: http://StrivingForEternity.org
Studying, Listening to and writing these four prayers in my heart along with the grace from God lifted an emotional dark cloud that lasted nearly half of my life. I was lost and now I am found. It finally made sense to my heart, mind and soul. From where I was to where I am now, my vow to God was, “help heal me and I’ll share it with the world”. During my Faith Community Health Partnership training and outreach, I was able to share the gospel, not just from memory, but from the heart of flesh.
The hardest thing to admit for a person suffering with a mental disorder or brain damage is to admit it’s not just physical, it’s more of a spiritual challenge and the hardest thing to face is that’s all it is in 95% of the times. None of us are perfect and if we admit our faults, our sins, turn away from our old ways and towards God, our whole life can change.
We must develop our spiritual and emotional intelligence to get through life with our soul intact. We must study the Word of God to find the path out of the darkness into the light through our faith in Jesus.
My Indiana Jones-like journeys to various continents and remote islands to “cure myself” led me to the ends of the earth and well off the path. Deuteronomy 30:4 says, “Even if you have been banished to the most distant land under the heavens, from there the LORD your God will gather you and bring you back.” No one else could have saved me, gathered me back together, brought me back and restored my soul, only God can do that. Peace of mind is a gift of grace from God through faith in Jesus Christ.
After years of treating with nearly every form of Western Medicine, Eastern Medicine and Jungle Medicine, I finally submitted to the truth. Depression was truly a spiritual illness and there is only one “doctor” who can fix us, mind, body and soul and that’s Our Lord and Savior, the one true God, Jesus Christ.
If you haven’t accepted Him into your heart, please do so today for ONLY He can truly lift the darkness that plagues too many human beings. As Psalm 23 powerfully says, “He restores my soul”, if you’ve traveled to the ends of the world and still feel empty, Jesus is waiting for you to call Him.
HEALING THE PAST: I promised to tell the world that no plant medicine, no guru, no shaman, no sound healing tone or hidden secret society has the answer, they are just distractions from the TRUTH in Jesus Christ. Endless material desires coupled with learned motivation or inspiration without the right (Holy) spirit inside can be a fleeting shallow life, but when you are living the Word of God and then match the emotional intelligence training to change your interactions with EVERYONE you meet, it will only make you a better follower of Christ. Ezekiel 36:26 says, “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.”
PARENTS: Please watch this…
THE FUTURE: As a practicing Community Faith & Health Partner with Jacksonville Chapel, I’ve been to work with Pastor Mike Bethune, one of the best trainers for outreach ministry I’ve met. Through training with the Atlantic Healthcare Hospital System, I have been blessed with the opportunity to serve into the lives of some amazing human beings this last year.
In John 13:35, Jesus Christ said, “Love one another. As I have loved you, so also you must love one another. Bythisall menwill knowthatyou areMydisciples,ifyou loveone another.” Follow Him, the way, the truth and the LIFE and your whole present, future and eternity will change forever.
“God’s Prescription to defeat Depression” for me was within the 2,000 pages of the Holy Bible and getting to know Jesus through His Word. The lessons helped me find true forgiveness, helped heal my marriage, improved my role as a husband and father, helped me successfully relaunch multiple businesses and helped heal many of my human relationships and mistakes of the past. We are all prodigal children to God, He knows what you want before you ask Him, He just wants you to ask and get to know Him and serve your fellow human beings, because WE are all made in the image of God.
It has allowed me to find Christian mentors and most uplifting of all…taught me the PATH out of the tunnel of darkness is SERVING God first, then OTHERS. We must love God first, love your family second and everything else will work itself out. Pray and increase your faith every day in every way and NEVER GIVE UP. The world really needs YOU now more than ever!
AUDIO BOOK SERIES: I created this audiobook program to serve as a Chaplain Tool and serve all of the lost, forgotten, depressed and lost souls and released it FREE of charge as a YouTube based prayer tool for those in need.
No one in the world needs to buy it, all of the videos with full audio have been uploaded to YouTube for FREE, which helps those financially challenged, who need Jesus the most in hours of suffering and desperation.
For every 1,000 FREE plays or so on YouTube, someone buys it which we greatly appreciate. If you choose to do so, you can Download “God’s Prescription to Cure Depression” on iTunes, Google Play or Amazon
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I’ve been using “Gods Cure for Depression” program in Chaplain visits and Life Coaching over the past few months and saw tremendous change in my new recovering friends and fellow church family members.
The smallest bit of empathy, compassion and understanding mixed with the right prayer at the right time, can change your whole life.
God’s grace is that powerful! Sometimes, the prayers become our encouragement in the toughest times can make ALL of the difference. God is THAT powerful, he truly can restore OUR souls and give us the peace of mind and heart we all seek in life.
We are planning a Crowdsourcing campaign to purchase rechargeable MP3 Players and Headphones to become FREE uplifting visit gifts loaded with tons of Bible based Audio programs to visiting patients. I remembered that while people are at the hospital, sometimes the medication they are taking affects their memory. They may not remember everything you said, but they will remember something. One of my greatest mentors in Chaplain training said, “Just share the Word of God and use a select few additional words if necessary”.
Please share these videos with people you love and on social media, they could help someone get on the path. God Bless you always and forever, even until the end of the time.
HOW TO USE “God’s Prescription to Cure Depression” Program Inspired by The Holy Bible and “God’s Psychiatry”, Produced by Brian Cimins
Start by watching, listening and or reading PSALM 23, five times daily for seven days, it will become written in and on your heart and soul by week’s end.
Psalm Twenty Three begins
“The Lord is my shepherd,
I shall not want
He makes me lie down in green pastures;
He leads me beside quiet waters.
He restores my soul;
He guides me in the paths of righteousness for His name’s sake
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I fear no evil for You are with me;
Your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;
You have anointed my head with oil;
My cup overflows.
Surely goodness and loving kindness will follow me all the days of my life,
And I will dwell in the house of the Lord…forever.”
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2. Step 2: Choose to make your life God centered rather than self-focused and continue to study the Bible and slowly start to Help and Serve others…
The Ten Commandments from the Holy Bible
Exodus Chapter 20 begins…
Then God spoke all these words, saying
I am the Lord Your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery
You shall have no other gods before Me
You shall not for yourself an idol or any likeness of what is in heaven or in the water under the earth. You shall not worship them or serve them; for I, the Lord Your God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children, on the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me but showing loving kindess to thousands, to those who Love Me and keep My commandments.
You shall not take the name of the Lord Your God in vain, for the Lord will not leave him unpunished who takes His Name in vain.
Remember the Sabbath Day, to keep it Holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work but the seventh day is a Sabbath Day of the Lord Your God. In it, you shall not do any work, you or your son or your daughter, your male or female servant or your cattle of your sojourners who stays with you. For in six days, the Lord made the Heavens and the earth, the sea and all that is in them, and rested on the seventh day; therefore the Lord blessed the Sabbath Day and make it Holy.
Honor Your Mother and Your Father, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the Lord Your God gives you.
You shall not murder
You Shall not commit adultery
You shall not steal
You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor
You shall not covet your neighbor’s house, you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife or his male servant or his female servant or his ox or his donkey or anything that belongs to your neighbor.
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Step 3. Say this simple prayer once every day when you rise…”The Lord’s Prayer”:
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Lastly was The Beatitudes from Book of Matthew’s Sermon on the Mount by Jesus Christ
Step 4: Please fully accept and realize that you and many of us can and will suffer. Look at the Book of Job for a true example of facing adversity with faith alone. Suffering comes in all shapes and never the same for two different people. This prayer massively increased my awareness that there is blessing, even in persecution, like the prophets who were before you. I listened to this during every sunset for 30 days.
“The world knew me as a martial arts promoter for the sport of Mixed Martial Arts, Grappling and Jiu Jitsu, but God helped me become a peacemaker through tremendous trials and tribulation in life. Everyone faces challenges in life, how we handle them and our relationship with God will teach us how to face adversity, how to show loving kindness, how to show compassion and increase patiences, how to master forgiveness and willingness to help others. Sometimes if we are not willing to humble ourselves and surrender to God, He will do it for you, as He did for me. My return to the top will be by God’s will alone and all the Glory of Success will be for God alone. Simply believe!” – Brian Cimins (https://briancimins.wordpress.com)
The Book of Matthew Chapter 5, “The Beatitudes” begin
“When Jesus saw the crowds, He went up to the Mountain; and after He sat down, His disciples Came to Him. He opened His mouth and began to teach them, saying, “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for their’s is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.
Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart for they shall see God
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called Sons of God
Blessed are those who have persecuted for the sake of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven
Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me.
Rejoice and be glad, for your reward in heaven is great; for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.
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Step 5: Get into a Bible based church in your area, visit them ALL and find the one that fits the best on your path to Christ
Step 6: Join a small group, an outreach ministry or family support group within your church to meet and greet with fellow Christians to mentor and befriend.
Step 7: Seek Christian mentors, theologians, Pastors and other leaders who will help guide you on the path to Jesus Christ such as the additional resources below.
ADDITIONAL VIDEO RESOURCES to Learn about Religions, Christianity and Jesus Christ:
Pastor John MacArthur, one of the mentors to MANY of my mentors
Introduction to the Major Western Religions with Andrew Rappaport
BEWARE of False Teachers and Prophets – my friend, Pastor Justin Peters is known as “SPIRITUAL BATMAN” for his heroic journey to tell the truth about “prosperity preachers”
Suffering with Addiction or Alcoholism, FREE Audiobook, “12 Ways To Solve Your Problem” by Dr. Charles L. Allen:
Thank you for listening and reading and Thank You Jesus for all you’ve done for us in eternity already and for healing and empowering me to share this to the world. Please share the direct link with people who love and care about at: http://RealChristianMeditation.com
P.S. If you want to know who I promised to tell, it was Jesus Christ, the same One who found me at the bottom at the end of the earth…GLORY BE TO GOD, “He Restores My Soul”
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LASTLY…because I also promised…this is a WATCHMAN WARNING AGAINST PLANT MEDICINES AYAHUASCA, HUACHUMA and other SHAMAN “Brews for the Soul”…
If you are still reading this, THANK YOU, secondly, here’s a WARNING for all lost seekers…if anyone ever starts telling you about “opening up their third eye”, “talking to the dead” or this enlightening trip to the Jungles of Iquitos, Peru, please do not be deceived, for they have already been deceived and call to deceive others…please watch these last two videos.
The Next Two videos might seem “out of place” or strange, but I’m posting these for my brothers and sisters who still visit Shamans in the Jungles and Mountains of far off lands for “Spirit Quests”…if you truly “seek the truth”, please watch these.
Truth about Ayahuasca and plant medicines:
SATAN is the greatest deceiver and the greatest coming deception in the World would be to “meet an ALIEN”, before they appear, know it’s a DEMON…”demons” are real in unseen realms we are never supposed to visit, but many “seek the beast”, but know down to your SOUL, that all “evil entities” flee with the name of our Lord and Savior, JESUS CHRIST.
Please share and enter “Through the Wormhole” of Your Heart Consciousness. Thank you for all your support over the years.
– Your Strategy Coach,
Brian Cimins
I’m 86 years old and sadly I’m basically sitting on my death bed…
I have millions of dollars in the bank –
but I can’t BUY Health to Save My Life now.
I had a family and millions of fans around the world – but I’m all alone now…
Not even my children or long estranged wife or brother stand around my deathbed
I LIVED MY LIFE WRONG AND I DON’T WANT THIS TO HAPPEN TO YOU.
IF YOU LISTEN AND TAKE EVASIVE ACTION,
I CAN HELP YOU CHANGE YOUR FUTURE…
The following few moments may very well change your life…
and I wish someone had told me this when I was YOUR age….
Money is NOT EVIL by itself, its just paper with perceived value to obtain other things we value in other ways.
IF NOT MONEY – WHAT IS EVIL YOU MAY ASK?
Evil is the unquenchable, obsessive and moral bending desire for MORE.
EVIL is the bottomless, soulless and obsessive-compulsive pursuit of some pot of gold at the end of some rainbow which doesn’t exist
EVIL is having a PRICE tag for your HEART and SOUL in exchange for Financial Success at ANY cost.
EVIL is trying to BUY happiness, again and again, until all of those fake, short lived mirages of emotions are gone.
IMAGINE HAVING IT ALL — ONLY TO LOSE IT ALL…
YOU ARE NOW BROKE – all the money is gone, what do you have?
The only solution to your madness and happiness was acquiring MORE
Now you have NO MORE MEANS TO ACQUIRE FAKE HAPPINESS…
NO MORE MEANS TO ACQUIRE MORE SO…WHO ARE YOU NOW?
Where are all the people NOW who you thought were your friends while the money was flowing in?
You might have lost your family, friends and mostly everyone in the world thinks you are a self centered, egotistical asshole.
Why? Because of YOUR endless pursuit for MORE clouded your mind and diverted you from your TRUE PURPOSE IN LIFE!
DOES THIS HIT AN EMOTIONAL CHORD IN YOU?
DID IT DEPRESS OR SADDEN YOU?
…I ALMOST SAID GOOD, but I say this ONLY because I want YOU TO CHANGE!!
I’m not saying you can’t be financially successful;
I’m SAYING HAVE A GREATER PURPOSE IN LIFE well beyond the Pursuit of Financial Success.
Your Soul is SCREAMING for you to answer your TRUE calling
You can CHANGE today if you redefine what SUCCESS is to you.
You can transform your damaged relationships and build new ones.
You can forgive yourself and others who’ve hurt you
you can become a leader by mentoring with others who you aspire to be like.
You can re-balance your priorities in life.
You can heal your marriage and recreate a stronger LOVE than you ever thought possible.
You can become the best parent possible at ANY age – even 86, but don’t WAIT until then…
You will always be able to make more money, BUT you CANNOT make more time.
One day, just like me, you will DIE too…
What do YOU want to be remembered for?
What can YOU do for others to make the world a better place?
What is YOUR true purpose on this Earth?
We are ALL dying – but only a small select few are truly LIVING.
You can step out of the Shadows into the LIGHT.
You were meant for GREATNESS
You were meant for MORE than just what you do for a living.
You are an eternal being meant to INSPIRE AND HELP THE WORLD!
——LET’S GET IT RIGHT ONCE AND FOR ALL IN THIS LIFETIME…
TODAY, YOU STEP INTO THE WORLD WHERE TRUE LOVE EXISTS
AND YOU FINALLY REALIZE THAT LOVE IN FACT, IS “THE MORE” YOU’VE WANTED YOUR WHOLE LIFE
JUST LOVE MORE AND MORE,
EVERY DAY IN EVERY WAY
AND
NEVER GIVE UP,
regardless of how challenging your destiny and life will be…
The World really needs you now more than ever…
Together, with Love, Compassion and faith in HUMANITY, WE WILL DEFEAT EVIL, ONCE AND FOR ALL!
We are ONE family under Nanny and Pop, Indivisible because of our LOVE!
Life News that’s tough to bear, but in reality, just a hard part of LIFE
My Nanny, Carol Emma Russo passed away on Monday, March 4, 2013 at around 10:20 PM. She was 84-years-old was diagnosed with terminal liver cancer diagnosis with only six months to live for an amazingly blessed additional 4 years, 10 months and 2 weeks. She was a warrior and an inspiration. She loved her family more than anything else in her life and she missed her beloved husband, Louis Thomas Russo who passed away October 2008.
Nanny decided against Chemotherapy. On the Car ride home from the Sloan Kettering, she told me, “Brian, I’m not taking that Chemo shit. I get sick from Aspirin, if I only have six months to live, I don’t want to be throwing up the whole time.” Nanny’s doctor only gave her Vitamin B12 shots weekly and lots of Cortisone Shots to keep her dancing at weddings that she kept living for. Nanny often spoke of the “power of love” and how it kept her alive. Nanny got to witness the birth of four amazing children, Phyllis, Tom, and Barbara who all helped create one amazing family unit.
Nanny’s heart exponentially grew with Love 8 separate times in her life with her prized Grandchildren, Paul, Brian, Tommy, Rob, Vickie, Louis, Michele and Jaclyn. She was blessed with several extra years to witness great weddings and her heart kept growing with great grand children Emily, Jonathan, Logan, Kaylee, Jordan, and Dominic.
On Monday night, Nanny passed away was just 90 minutes after a beautiful guided meditation I did with my mother, Phyllis. I took the kids home and at around 9:45 PM, Logan randomly says, “Nanny is disappearing from this Earth and going to Heaven.” I replied, “Now?” and he replied, “Yes” – I quickly looked over my shoulder and out the window to a truck approaching, it was my Mom’s best friend. I called my Mom – I mean, I had just left a little while earlier, but Logan shook me down to the soul with his comment – My Mom was crying. I knew the end was near.
The moment Lucia got home from school, I raced over to find my Mom, Best Friend and care taker drinking tea in my Mom’s kitchen. My mother told me, “My sister Dorie told us to go have Tea, that we needed a break.” I sat with them for a few brief moments and then I went to show my Mom the video of Logan talking about Nanny and just as I pressed PLAY, the iPhone battery died. I casually said, “It died” (meaning the phone) and my mind and focus immediately went towards Nanny. This was one of the moments I had prepared emotionally for, but it was still hard.
Six years ago, I held Poppy’s hand as he passed away and it stuck with me, the beautiful feeling of the energy movement – feeling someone pass over to the next stage in their life in a sense.
Over the past few years, I realized and experienced what TRUE love was possible, just through touch or a pleasant thought, positive reinforcement or pleasant story telling opportunity.
I entered the room expecting to hear laboring breathing, but she was peaceful. I sat there and held Nanny’s hand for a few moments, said some prayers and mindful meditation and placed my head and ear over her heart, just to hear it beat three last times. I sat there for a few minutes in shock – I didn’t know what to do, but I kept my calm and wouldn’t let go of her hand until I felt a similar emotional feeling I experienced with Pop just six years ago. Then my Mom walked in…and my focus to comfort her became my main focus. Nanny was already off on her next adventure in life, to reunite with her beloved husband in the after life, in heaven, in her consciousness – whatever awaits us after life, I know she found him. True Love always forgives and forgets.
She left this Earth knowing everyone loved her and she pulsated that love in every action, breath and heart beat. Now, it’s OUR turn to expand our love in our life for our children and future generations. We can SHOW LOVE above and beyond any other emotion on the planet and FORGIVE yourself and others.
Thank you for loving me so much Nanny, thank you for trying to love EVERYONE who ever came into your life as much as you did. We will make YOU proud, we will make our FAMILY proud and LOVE each other more every day, in every way. Until we meet again beautiful…hope you are already dancing with Poppy in Heaven (or whatever beautiful place awaits us all). Love you Nanny, always and forever.
Taking off the first few months of 2013 has allowed a lot of time of reflection about the past, present and future of Grappling and my overall life balance in general. I’m proudly doing 1-2 hours per day of meditation to help quiet my mind, relax my body and heal my mind and soul.
Spending time with my two children along with working on several Coaching clients and the 2013 Grapplers Quest season keeps me busy, but not overwhelmed or stressed.
During one of my meditation sessions, I focused on remembering my proudest professional moments in life and wanted to share a few with you…
One of my proudest accomplishments and life moments was when Women could finally stand alongside Men at the “ADCC World Championships in 2005”. I’m proud that the “Professional Female Grappling” legacy has been maintained since inception, but It didn’t come easy and no one ever told the full story how it all came to fruition against all odds.
I forgot how hard I struggled to petition and literally beg for Women to be involved in the first ever Abu Dhabi Combat Club World Championship Grappling Event in the United States in May 2005. I remember overhearing, “The Event could never be held in Abu Dhabi again once Women were invited.” I couldn’t believe the resistance, but I refused to take NO for an answer.
For two months, I battled with the ADCC committee, which was completely against allowing Women into the tournament until they finally approved the proposal for Women to Compete at ADCC, but sadly refused to pay the Female Purses. I refused to give up, accepted their challenge of, “Approved But We Won’t Pay for it” and immediately sprung into action to secure the Female Tournament Purses and sponsorship for the ADCC 2005 in Long Beach, California. I pushed hard, but in the early days, even $1,000 was a lot from a sponsor, so it was a long uphill battle.
Our one main sponsor who promised to cover ALL of the Women’s Purses, only to have them completely bail on us just three weeks before the competition, abandoning their investment into paying for the Women’s Cash Prizes, but we still didn’t give up.
Gilberto from Jiu Jitsu Pro Gear (http://JiuJitsuProGear.com) and I (Brian Cimins from Grapplers Quest) paid for the Women’s Division Purses out of pocket from retail sales from the event because the ladies deserved the same honor and opportunity. I couldn’t let this opportunity pass for Women in Grappling, I knew it’s significance.
I would do it over, again and again, because I’m so glad to see how far the sport has come since the dark ages. I never fully grasped how the “Women in ADCC” was actually a Gender Equality and Female Empowerment movement victory and was a turning point in the history of grappling.
Sometimes when you are pushing forward so hard, down in the trenches, you forget to look up once in a while and realize all of the amazing people you met along the way and how many challenging situations you faced – and the Women of Grappling deserved the same spotlight, it was TIME. Remembering this proud moment makes it all worth it for me.
Another crazy memory popped up while writing this, I remembered that Alicia Anthony and Gazzy Parman and many of the Top Female Athletes in the Sport put together a Plaque and Beautiful book of hand written “Thank You” cards, but the ADCC Committee blocked the presentation of the award at the 2005 World Championships, so instead, the ladies presented it to me at World Grappling Games 2005 hosted by http://OnTheMat.com – that award meant the World to me and still proudly hangs on my wall today.
Ultimately, I want to Thank ALL of the amazing WOMEN who helped be pioneers for Submission Grappling and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and inspirations to many future generations to come.
Searching through old Grapplers Quest tapes, I came across footage from the first Professional Female No-Gi Grappling Tournament ever held in the World on Saturday, February 21, 2003 at Grapplers Quest, nearly two years before ADCC “approved” Women to compete alongside Men.
To celebrate the historic moment for the “First Female Professional Grappling Tournament” and commemorate this historic moment for eternally, I will be posting all of these previously lost matches for Free on YouTube at: http://LiveGrappling.com during this week sponsored by Super Body Care (http://SuperBodyCare.com), Onnit Supplements (http://StressExpo.com) and Meditation and Hypnosis training from http://HowToHealYourLife.com
Thank you for believing in Grapplers Quest, the Sport of Grappling and yourselves – we are evolving and will continue to push through the peaks and valleys of life, together as one.
On the horizon, the first women’s match headlines UFC 156 with Rhonda Rousey. The future is bright for men and women alike in Grappling, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and Mixed Martial Arts!
Please enjoy another “Positive Affirmation for Kids” with Logan John Cimins, 5-year-old son of Life Coach and Grapplers Quest founder, Brian Cimins
“Every Day in Every Way, I’m Getting Better”
– Logan Cimins inspired by American Monk, Burt Goldman
This great positive affirmation is inspired by one of my mentors, Burt Goldman, aka “The American Monk”. It can be used at ANY age, especially for people who’ve been sick or with some type of long term illness.
People who consistently wait for others to ask, “How are you doing?” or “How are you feeling?”, just to launch into a 30 minute conversation about how much pain they are in or how bad something hurts or aches. Complaining and reliving an “old injury” is just magnifying the problem to you and the listening party.
Complaining doesn’t allow you to focus on your progress, however big or small, you are just wallowing in your pain. I broke my back in a martial arts competition on December 2, 2000 and was nearly paralyzed. As a martial arts event promoter, I refused to let my scary story give a black eye to the sport. I set out to completely recreate my mental frame of mind to help others deal with challenging situations, something life always seems to deliver.
Even if you are in pain, please realize EVERYONE “suffers” in their own way. By responding with a more uplifting and inspirational response, even if you are in pain when the person asks, you will quickly accelerate your own healing, even if just in your mind – at least it’s a start. Start healing in your mind first and YOUR body will follow. You must believe in this, if you really want to live pain free.
Give it a try, start today and repeat this Affirmation and Mantra every day for 30 days, “Every Day in Every Way, I’m Getting Better”.
Until next time, BE positive 🙂
With your success and happiness in mind
Your Strategy Coach,
Brian J. Cimins
OUCH! Despite all the warnings and criticism, four out of five parents still spank their kids. Many experts believe the negative consequences outweigh any behavior benefits. Who’s right? This is a VERY important conversation to have as a couple before situations arise. Many couples have HUGE differences of opinions on “spanking” and it can lead to tremendous problems and verbal altercations between parents. It’s important to look at it from all sides and the following PARENTS Magazine article really nailed it on the head. Check it out at: http://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/discipline/spanking/spanking-discipline-debate
Parenting Tip: It’s HARD sometimes to keep your cool as a parent during chaotic moments, screaming, sibling rivalries, etc. – before responding or disciplining your child in any way, try to close your eyes, focus on your breathing and take Five DEEP breaths first…just give it a try and reply below with your feedback or results. Remember the old saying, “It really takes a WHOLE village to help raise a child” – don’t be so hard on yourself, especially if you are all alone (father or mother). Keep expanding your mind, focus on improving weaknesses and give new things a try, because there’s always “another way”. If you want change, but keep repeating the “OLD WAYS”, change is impossible. You MUST try new things, which might currently lie outside of your “comfort zone” if you want better results. Remember to tell your kids you love them today and hug them as many times as you can. Your Strategy Coach, Proud Parent of Two amazing children and Work-From-Home Dad,Brian John Cimins
Here’s a letter of introduction from a very special friend of mine and Artist and Author named DJ Svoboda.
I met DJ and his SUPER mom at the New Jersey Autism Conference with my brother, Paul Cimins, Founder of Autism Radio. Paul Cimins and his charity, Autism Radio flew DJ and his family up from North Carolina to set-up at his booth and display his artwork. Cimins is also author of the Autism Spectrum Diet and Host of “Hope Saves The Day” on iTunes, iHeartRadio and online free at: http://AutismRadio.org
It was way back in October 2012 and had an amazing impact on my life. DJ inspired me to become a better person, father and leader in the Autism and Life Coaching world and propelled us to launch the “Coaching for Autism” program: http://CoachingForAutism.org
DJ’s making children all over the world SMILE from ear to ear with his amazing creation of ImagiFriends and Imagiville – check out his work at: http://www.myimagiville.com/
My name is Daniel John Svoboda. I am 24 years old. I was born on September 22, 1982 in Shaw AFB, S.C. At the age of three, I was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder with Psychomotor Retardation. During my school years I went through some very difficult times. I was often picked on by other people and made fun of. It was from these very difficult situations that The Imagifriends were born. The Imagifriends live in a place called “Imagiville.” In this imaginary place, no one is ever picked on or mistreated in any way. They are loved and accepted for who they are. Everyone in Imagiville helps and cares for one another.
Each Imagifriend that I draw is different. They come in many sizes, colors, and designs. None of them are ever mean or cruel. They each have their own special job and purpose in Imagiville. Every Imagifriend knows that as long as they have a kind heart, it does not matter what they look like. Some of them are physically or mentally handicapped but that’s O.K.!
I want to use the Imagifriends to help the Autistic and handicapped know that they are special just the way they are. My dream is to one day write and illustrate books for children. I have also created the Imagifriends coloring book and I do “Imaginames.” That is where I create an Imagifriend out of the letters of your name and connect them. I donate a portion of what I earn to the Autistic Society and to my wonderful church, Hope Community Church.
Being Autistic has presented me with many challenges in my life. From these challenges I have learned to never give up. I want to thank the Lord for giving me the talent to draw and I want to be able to use my art to help others. Remember: “Everyone Is Special Just The Way They Are.”
Sample and Order “God’s Prescription to Cure Depression” on 
Glancing at the old, stained and beat up photo, I thought of how long and beautifully my parent’s loved each other. I thought about how many trials and tribulations that they faced, that I never even knew about. I thought about how much they loved us and just how very strong, amazing parents Paul and Phyllis Cimins truly were and are today.
tian study from his Children Team Leadership development programs and years of devotion to learn. I was a little embarrassed that this was my first time realizing my dad was a well studied Christian leader and teacher of the Word of God through sixty or more years of study. Back to the action…the Air Hockey puck stood on it’s side in front of the right book for me called “God’s Psychiatry” by Dr. Charles Allen, a four scripture and prayer based book which clearly lays out the “Prescription to Cure Depression”. 
Learning Bible hermeneutics training with 
The hardest thing to admit for a person suffering with a mental disorder or brain damage is to admit it’s not just physical, it’s more of a spiritual challenge and the hardest thing to face is that’s all it is in 95% of the times. None of us are perfect and if we admit our faults, our sins, turn away from our old ways and towards God, our whole life can change.
“God’s Prescription to defeat Depression” for me was within the 2,000 pages of the Holy Bible and getting to know Jesus through His Word. The lessons helped me find true forgiveness, helped heal my marriage, improved my role as a husband and father, helped me successfully relaunch multiple businesses and helped heal many of my human relationships and mistakes of the past. We are all prodigal children to God, He knows what you want before you ask Him, He just wants you to ask and get to know Him and serve your fellow human beings, because WE are all made in the image of God.
I’ve been using “Gods Cure for Depression” program in Chaplain visits and Life Coaching over the past few months and saw tremendous change in my new recovering friends and fellow church family members.
“The world knew me as a martial arts promoter for the sport of Mixed Martial Arts, Grappling and Jiu Jitsu, but God helped me become a peacemaker through tremendous trials and tribulation in life. Everyone faces challenges in life, how we handle them and our relationship with God will teach us how to face adversity, how to show loving kindness, how to show compassion and increase patiences, how to master forgiveness and willingness to help others. Sometimes if we are not willing to humble ourselves and surrender to God, He will do it for you, as He did for me. My return to the top will be by God’s will alone and all the Glory of Success will be for God alone. Simply believe!” – Brian Cimins (
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