February is Parental Alienation Awareness Month

Parental Alienation (PA) is a term used to describe a child’s unjustified campaign of denigration against one parent. It is a form of psychological abuse that occurs when one parent manipulates and brainwashes a child into believing the other parent is bad, evil, or worthless. PA can have a devastating impact on both the targeted parent and the child.

PA is not a recognized mental disorder, but it is a recognized form of emotional abuse. It can occur in any type of family, regardless of race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, or sexual orientation. However, it is most commonly seen in families who are going through a divorce or separation. In these cases, one parent may use the child as a pawn in the ongoing conflict between the parents, turning the child against the other parent.

Symptoms of PA can vary depending on the child’s age, but some common signs include:

  • Refusing to visit or talk to the targeted parent
  • Making negative or derogatory comments about the targeted parent
  • Expressing fear or anger towards the targeted parent without any justifiable reason
  • Displaying a sudden and drastic change in behavior towards the targeted parent
  • Believing and repeating lies or false accusations about the targeted parent

PA is a complex issue and it is not always easy to identify. The child may not even be aware that they are being manipulated and brainwashed. They may genuinely believe that the targeted parent is a bad person. It is important to remember that the child is not at fault in these situations, they are being used as a tool by the abusive parent.

The impact of PA on the targeted parent can be devastating. They may feel rejected, hurt, and powerless. They may also feel guilty, as if they have done something wrong to cause the child to turn against them. In some cases, the targeted parent may even experience depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues as a result of the abuse.

The impact on the child can also be severe. They may feel confused, guilty, and torn between their parents. They may also experience emotional and behavioral problems, such as anxiety, depression, and acting out. In some cases, the child may even develop trust issues and have difficulty forming healthy relationships in the future.

It is important to understand that PA is not the fault of the targeted parent, and they are not responsible for the child’s behavior. The abusive parent is the one who is responsible for the child’s behavior, and they are the ones who need to be held accountable.

There are several ways to address PA and help the child, the targeted parent, and the family as a whole. One effective way is through therapy. A therapist can work with the child, the targeted parent, and the abusive parent to help them understand and cope with the situation. They can also help the child and the targeted parent to rebuild their relationship.

Another effective way is through the involvement of a neutral third party, such as a mediator or a guardian ad litem. These professionals can help to facilitate communication between the parents and can also help to identify and address any issues of PA.

It is also important to involve the legal system in cases of PA. The abusive parent can be held accountable for their actions and may face legal consequences, such as losing custody or visitation rights. However, it should be noted that legal intervention should not be the first step and should only be done in cases where therapy and other methods have failed.

In conclusion, Parental Alienation is a form of emotional abuse that can have a devastating impact on both the targeted parent and the child. It is important to recognize the signs of PA and to take action to help the child, the targeted parent, and the family as

Parental Alienation is a form of emotional abuse that can have a devastating impact on both the targeted parent and the child. It is important to recognize the signs of PA and to take action to help the child, the targeted parent, and the family as a whole. This can include seeking therapy, involving a neutral third party, and in severe cases, involving the legal system. It is crucial to understand that PA is not the fault of the targeted parent, and they are not responsible for the child’s behavior. The abusive parent is the one who is responsible and should be held accountable for their actions. It is important to remember that PA is a complex issue and that early intervention is key to preventing further harm to the child and the targeted parent.

Using children as pawns in the midst of a divorce is a cruel and inhumane act. It is important for parents to remember that children are not tools for manipulation and deceit. Instead, they should be shown love and support during this difficult time. By prioritizing their children’s well-being and working towards healing, parents can help to mitigate the negative effects of a divorce and ensure that their children grow up to be healthy and well-adjusted adults.

Learn more about #ParentalAlienation at http://Parental-Alienation.info for resources and research on the devastating effects of Parental Alienation.

My most important role in my life is being a father, role model and leader to my two amazing children, Logan and Kaylee.

I started watching them for 15 hours a day from 7:45 AM until 10:00 PM every day. Initially it was very challenging, because I was breaking the work-at-home workaholic cycle on top of figuring out what to do to add value to their lives.

I needed to “Dad-up” and realize that I needed to not just be in the same room as the kids, but truly be PRESENT in the moment and become more lovingly interactive with them. I realized that pressing play on NetFlix and letting the kids play video games for hours while you type away on the laptop isn’t truly being present with them and they notice.

I missed so much of their life with Grapplers Quest and I decided that I wanted to become a Super Dad.

I remember seeing Jungle Gym founder, Justin Garcia giving some tips and showing fun projects from his amazing Home Schooling Program due out soon (http://MasterChim.com) and I was inspired to set out to fill my new found time with the kids with activities to engage their hearts, minds, soul and spirit.

We started doing arts and crafts, learning Spanish, comic book drawing, practicing nightly meditation, learning the solar system, playing board and card games, star gazing with telescope on clear nights, “Super Hero Training” which is basic exercises with leadership skills and several other Life Skills development programs and several other FUN activities we do together. I even reward their good behavior with Family Inclusive Video Games like Beatles Rock Band nearly every evening – I’ll write about that another blog…all in all, I’m trying to be the Best Dad I can be. I love recommendations for fun things to do – please reply with any ideas.

NOW TO THE PHOTO…
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“It’s not coming off!” I exclaimed.

The Red Stained hands in the main picture belong to my beautiful 3-year-old daughter, Kaylee Paige Cimins who slammed down a “Do-A-Dot” marker, breaking the felt tip and causing Red Ink to flow out of the marker. She had been told several times to not slam them down, so when she broke it, she started crying and proceeded to wipe RED INK all over her face too while trying to wipe away tears. She ran into the bathroom where I was giving my son a bath nearly exactly how the picture shows, except she was screaming and crying.

First, I thought she was bleeding and freaked out….who wouldn’t, she was dripping fresh red ink from her hands and face. Once I realized what occurred and that the Red was just Do-A-Dot Marker stained, I tried to clean the ink off. First I tried to clean off her hands with Trader Joe’s Next to Godliness Hand Soap which didn’t remove any ink at all. Unfortunately, then I tried to clean her hands with Dr. Bronner’s Magic Soaps Tea Tree Oil which removed only 15-20% of the color stains. AHHHH!!! What will I do???

ENTER MY SOLUTION —- Super Body Care’s Walnut Scrub

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My daughter started crying again after Dr. Bronner soap barely did anything – she asked, “Daddy, are my hands going to be red forever?”. I calmed her down and promised her I would get it out.

Finally, I grabbed Cheri Heberling’s Super Body Care Walnut Scrub and within seconds of calmly scrubbing, the color came off…completely. She loves the smell, so she allowed me to gently scrub her face (around her sensitive skin of her eyes) as well, because she had wiped her face while crying her eyes looked like a prize fighter. It easily removed her Do-A-Dot eye makeup too.

Thank you Super Body Care for helping me look like a Super Dad to Kaylee. Check out Super Body Care products at: http://SuperBodyCare.com or purchase the Walnut Scrub directly here: http://superbodycare.com/shop/#!/~/product/category=1870672&id=8057839

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