parents forget – Brian Cimins

Parental Alienation (PA) is a term used to describe a child’s unjustified campaign of denigration against one parent. It is a form of psychological abuse that occurs when one parent manipulates and brainwashes a child into believing the other parent is bad, evil, or worthless. PA can have a devastating impact on both the targeted parent and the child.

PA is not a recognized mental disorder, but it is a recognized form of emotional abuse. It can occur in any type of family, regardless of race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, or sexual orientation. However, it is most commonly seen in families who are going through a divorce or separation. In these cases, one parent may use the child as a pawn in the ongoing conflict between the parents, turning the child against the other parent.

Symptoms of PA can vary depending on the child’s age, but some common signs include:

Refusing to visit or talk to the targeted parent
Making negative or derogatory comments about the targeted parent
Expressing fear or anger towards the targeted parent without any justifiable reason
Displaying a sudden and drastic change in behavior towards the targeted parent
Believing and repeating lies or false accusations about the targeted parent

PA is a complex issue and it is not always easy to identify. The child may not even be aware that they are being manipulated and brainwashed. They may genuinely believe that the targeted parent is a bad person. It is important to remember that the child is not at fault in these situations, they are being used as a tool by the abusive parent.

The impact of PA on the targeted parent can be devastating. They may feel rejected, hurt, and powerless. They may also feel guilty, as if they have done something wrong to cause the child to turn against them. In some cases, the targeted parent may even experience depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues as a result of the abuse.

The impact on the child can also be severe. They may feel confused, guilty, and torn between their parents. They may also experience emotional and behavioral problems, such as anxiety, depression, and acting out. In some cases, the child may even develop trust issues and have difficulty forming healthy relationships in the future.

It is important to understand that PA is not the fault of the targeted parent, and they are not responsible for the child’s behavior. The abusive parent is the one who is responsible for the child’s behavior, and they are the ones who need to be held accountable.

There are several ways to address PA and help the child, the targeted parent, and the family as a whole. One effective way is through therapy. A therapist can work with the child, the targeted parent, and the abusive parent to help them understand and cope with the situation. They can also help the child and the targeted parent to rebuild their relationship.

Another effective way is through the involvement of a neutral third party, such as a mediator or a guardian ad litem. These professionals can help to facilitate communication between the parents and can also help to identify and address any issues of PA.

It is also important to involve the legal system in cases of PA. The abusive parent can be held accountable for their actions and may face legal consequences, such as losing custody or visitation rights. However, it should be noted that legal intervention should not be the first step and should only be done in cases where therapy and other methods have failed.

In conclusion, Parental Alienation is a form of emotional abuse that can have a devastating impact on both the targeted parent and the child. It is important to recognize the signs of PA and to take action to help the child, the targeted parent, and the family as

Parental Alienation is a form of emotional abuse that can have a devastating impact on both the targeted parent and the child. It is important to recognize the signs of PA and to take action to help the child, the targeted parent, and the family as a whole. This can include seeking therapy, involving a neutral third party, and in severe cases, involving the legal system. It is crucial to understand that PA is not the fault of the targeted parent, and they are not responsible for the child’s behavior. The abusive parent is the one who is responsible and should be held accountable for their actions. It is important to remember that PA is a complex issue and that early intervention is key to preventing further harm to the child and the targeted parent.

Using children as pawns in the midst of a divorce is a cruel and inhumane act. It is important for parents to remember that children are not tools for manipulation and deceit. Instead, they should be shown love and support during this difficult time. By prioritizing their children’s well-being and working towards healing, parents can help to mitigate the negative effects of a divorce and ensure that their children grow up to be healthy and well-adjusted adults.

Learn more about #ParentalAlienation at http://Parental-Alienation.info for resources and research on the devastating effects of Parental Alienation.

“Parents Forget”, an adaptation of FATHER FORGETS by W. Livingston Larned from How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

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Listen, son: I am saying this as you lie asleep, one little paw crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on your damp forehead. I have stolen into your room alone. Just a few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library, a stifling wave of remorse swept over me. Guiltily I came to your bedside.

There are the things I was thinking, son: I had been cross to you. I scolded you as you were dressing for school because you gave your face merely a dab with a towel. I took you to task for not cleaning your shoes. I called out angrily when you threw some of your things on the floor.

At breakfast I found fault, too. You spilled things. You gulped down your food. You put your elbows on the table. You spread butter too thick on your bread. And as you started off to play and I made for my train, you turned and waved a hand and called, “Goodbye, Daddy!” and I frowned, and said in reply, “Hold your shoulders back!”

Then it began all over again in the late afternoon. As I came up the road I spied you, down on your knees, playing marbles. There were holes in your stockings. I humiliated you before your boyfriends by marching you ahead of me to the house. Stockings were expensive-and if you had to buy them you would be more careful! Imagine that, son, from a father!

Do you remember, later, when I was reading in the library, how you came in timidly, with a sort of hurt look in your eyes? When I glanced up over my paper, impatient at the interruption, you hesitated at the door. “What is it you want?” I snapped.

You said nothing, but ran across in one tempestuous plunge, and threw your arms around my neck and kissed me, and your small arms tightened with an affection that God had set blooming in your heart and which even neglect could not wither. And then you were gone, pattering up the stairs.

Well, son, it was shortly afterwards that my paper slipped from my hands and a terrible sickening fear came over me. What has habit been doing to me? The habit of finding fault, of reprimanding-this was my reward to you for being a boy. It was not that I did not love you; it was that I expected too much of youth. I was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years.

And there was so much that was good and fine and true in your character. The little heart of you was as big as the dawn itself over the wide hills. This was shown by your spontaneous impulse to rush in and kiss me good night. Nothing else matters tonight, son. I have come to your bedside in the darkness, and I have knelt there, ashamed!

It is feeble atonement; I know you would not understand these things if I told them to you during your waking hours. But tomorrow I will be a real daddy! I will chum with you, and suffer when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh. I will bite my tongue when impatient words come. I will keep saying as if it were a ritual: “He is nothing but a boy-a little boy!”

I am afraid I have visualized you as a man. Yet as I see you now, son, crumpled and weary in your cot, I see that you are still a baby. Yesterday you were in your mother’s arms, your head on her shoulder. I have asked too much, too much, yet given too little of myself. Promise me, as I teach you to have the manners of a man, that you will remind me how to have the loving spirit of a child.

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