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February is Parental Alienation Awareness Month

Parental Alienation (PA) is a term used to describe a child’s unjustified campaign of denigration against one parent. It is a form of psychological abuse that occurs when one parent manipulates and brainwashes a child into believing the other parent is bad, evil, or worthless. PA can have a devastating impact on both the targeted parent and the child.

PA is not a recognized mental disorder, but it is a recognized form of emotional abuse. It can occur in any type of family, regardless of race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, or sexual orientation. However, it is most commonly seen in families who are going through a divorce or separation. In these cases, one parent may use the child as a pawn in the ongoing conflict between the parents, turning the child against the other parent.

Symptoms of PA can vary depending on the child’s age, but some common signs include:

  • Refusing to visit or talk to the targeted parent
  • Making negative or derogatory comments about the targeted parent
  • Expressing fear or anger towards the targeted parent without any justifiable reason
  • Displaying a sudden and drastic change in behavior towards the targeted parent
  • Believing and repeating lies or false accusations about the targeted parent

PA is a complex issue and it is not always easy to identify. The child may not even be aware that they are being manipulated and brainwashed. They may genuinely believe that the targeted parent is a bad person. It is important to remember that the child is not at fault in these situations, they are being used as a tool by the abusive parent.

The impact of PA on the targeted parent can be devastating. They may feel rejected, hurt, and powerless. They may also feel guilty, as if they have done something wrong to cause the child to turn against them. In some cases, the targeted parent may even experience depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues as a result of the abuse.

The impact on the child can also be severe. They may feel confused, guilty, and torn between their parents. They may also experience emotional and behavioral problems, such as anxiety, depression, and acting out. In some cases, the child may even develop trust issues and have difficulty forming healthy relationships in the future.

It is important to understand that PA is not the fault of the targeted parent, and they are not responsible for the child’s behavior. The abusive parent is the one who is responsible for the child’s behavior, and they are the ones who need to be held accountable.

There are several ways to address PA and help the child, the targeted parent, and the family as a whole. One effective way is through therapy. A therapist can work with the child, the targeted parent, and the abusive parent to help them understand and cope with the situation. They can also help the child and the targeted parent to rebuild their relationship.

Another effective way is through the involvement of a neutral third party, such as a mediator or a guardian ad litem. These professionals can help to facilitate communication between the parents and can also help to identify and address any issues of PA.

It is also important to involve the legal system in cases of PA. The abusive parent can be held accountable for their actions and may face legal consequences, such as losing custody or visitation rights. However, it should be noted that legal intervention should not be the first step and should only be done in cases where therapy and other methods have failed.

In conclusion, Parental Alienation is a form of emotional abuse that can have a devastating impact on both the targeted parent and the child. It is important to recognize the signs of PA and to take action to help the child, the targeted parent, and the family as

Parental Alienation is a form of emotional abuse that can have a devastating impact on both the targeted parent and the child. It is important to recognize the signs of PA and to take action to help the child, the targeted parent, and the family as a whole. This can include seeking therapy, involving a neutral third party, and in severe cases, involving the legal system. It is crucial to understand that PA is not the fault of the targeted parent, and they are not responsible for the child’s behavior. The abusive parent is the one who is responsible and should be held accountable for their actions. It is important to remember that PA is a complex issue and that early intervention is key to preventing further harm to the child and the targeted parent.

Using children as pawns in the midst of a divorce is a cruel and inhumane act. It is important for parents to remember that children are not tools for manipulation and deceit. Instead, they should be shown love and support during this difficult time. By prioritizing their children’s well-being and working towards healing, parents can help to mitigate the negative effects of a divorce and ensure that their children grow up to be healthy and well-adjusted adults.

Learn more about #ParentalAlienation at http://Parental-Alienation.info for resources and research on the devastating effects of Parental Alienation.

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PARENT and Child Inspiration - If you keep pedaling, I'll keep pushing you forward, always and forever - Brian Cimins

“If you keep pedaling, I’ll keep pushing you forward, always and forever” – Brian Cimins

My 5-year-old son, Logan is starting to go on some serious bike rides including aggressive hill climbs which sometimes require my assistance. Most of the time, I’m barely pushing, sometimes he really needs me – but as long as he doesn’t give up, I keep pushing. Neighbors probably think I’m a crazy Dad, because I’m making him scream things like, “I know I can” and “I believe in myself” but I could care less. I’m helping open up the limitless possibilities within his mind over body to help him achieve real self confidence through personal achievement. I wanted to become the best coach in the world, just like every Dad can be in a Son or Daughter’s life. It’s our job to get it right, so we can set the example for our children.

Until next time, remember to be truly present with your child when spending time with them – no matter how much time you can spend, be there mentally and physically the whole time. Clear your thoughts, put away your phone, laptop and iPad, turn off the television and just be there 100% for them. If you are going to “submit” to something in life, let it be LOVE and release the racing thoughts of every day life for your own peace of mind and to be the best parent you can be.

hope_saves_the_day_grappling_autism-1Thank you for your time – you are a great parent just for seeking out how improve your relationships with your children.

1 in 88 Children are diagnosed with Autism including my 9-year-old nephew, Jonathan Cimins – Please help families who desperately need services today at: http://AutismDonation.org

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Parents – The Great Spanking Debate with Thoughts from Brian Cimins, Life Coach

The Great Spanking Debate

OUCH! Despite all the warnings and criticism, four out of five parents still spank their kids. Many experts believe the negative consequences outweigh any behavior benefits. Who’s right? This is a VERY important conversation to have as a couple before situations arise. 
Many couples have HUGE differences of opinions on “spanking” and it can lead to tremendous problems and verbal altercations between parents. It’s important to look at it from all sides and the following PARENTS Magazine article really nailed it on the head.  Check it out at: http://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/discipline/spanking/spanking-discipline-debate

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Parenting Tip: It’s HARD sometimes to keep your cool as a parent during chaotic moments, screaming, sibling rivalries, etc. – before responding or disciplining your child in any way, try to close your eyes, focus on your breathing and take Five DEEP breaths first…just give it a try and reply below with your feedback or results. 
Remember the old saying, “It really takes a WHOLE village to help raise a child” – don’t be so hard on yourself, especially if you are all alone (father or mother).  Keep expanding your mind, focus on improving weaknesses and give new things a try, because there’s always “another way”.  If you want change, but keep repeating the “OLD WAYS”, change is impossible.  You MUST try new things, which might currently lie outside of your “comfort zone” if you want better results.  Remember to tell your kids you love them today and hug them as many times as you can. 
Your Strategy Coach, Proud Parent of Two amazing children and Work-From-Home Dad,
Brian John Cimins

Parents – The Great Spanking Debate with Thoughts from Brian Cimins, Life Coach

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